To be a human means to be a human with and for others.
Only alone it seems to me, I am free to be a human.
It’s this loneliness, which let me become a human again.
When you ask my classmates how they would describe me, they probably would say: “Volker is a communicative, friendly and outgoing guy. Who is fast in making new contacts, who likes to laugh and takes nothing quite seriously. He maybe is a little bit superficial.”
But that’s only half the truth. There is another part of me, that is totally different from the first glance. O.K. I like to have company but on the other hand I need to be alone to stay myself. After a day together with other people I often feel absorbed by them and the actions of the day.
Most of us aren’t sensitive enough to realize the difference or aren’t conscious about the inner and the outer world. They flow superficially with the group and are attracted by outer sensations. But there is more. I’ve been learning that during the years I’ve been living alone. The inner world of your thoughts, feelings and your true self can you only discover in silence and loneliness.
You need the daily silence to step back from the daily business and routines to become grounded in yourself again. To keep in mind who you really are. That you not only reflect and repeat the image that people have of you. That you don’t act automatically in the way other people expect it from you. That you stay yourself.